Employers propose venturing beyond ordinary routines for professional growth.
Revamped Take:
Embrace the hottest topic in town – self-love – with Olga Primachenko, a psychologist, journalist, and writer, who graced the conference "Territory of Free Thought. Psychology of Love" in Yekaterinburg, Russia. Known for her bestsellers "Kind to Yourself: A Book About Valuing and Caring for Yourself" and "With You I'm Home: A Book About Loving Each Other While Staying True to Yourself", she shared her insights on the burgeoning trend of self-love in a talk titled "Self-Love: A New Burden." Here's a rundown of her discussion highlights.
Olga Primachenko's Spin:
- The popular topic of self-love has become a marching band for the book market, playing tunes for every tune. However, no book is a one-stop guide for self-love journey. Every person shapes their self-love story differently, so seek what resonates with you.
- You're the expert in your own life. While you can learn from others' experiences, the final call rests with you. Remember, nobody knows your life story better than you.
- Self-love is an intimate self-setting, not a shopping list. If you believe a hefty price tag is the mirror to your self-love, think again. It's just a marketing ploy. The true treasure is the love you have for yourself.
- Think twice before flaunting those spa days or lavish meals on social media. Don't make self-love a ready-to-wear statement. Prove it through actions, not possessions. If you're genuinely loving yourself, you won't seek validation from a crowd.
Is Self-Love Sneaky Selfishness?
Self-love and selfishness – two words that sound amazingly similar, yet carry worlds of difference. Here's how they part ways:
- A self-centered individual snatches everything they see, dissatisfied with what they've already claimed.
- A true egoist deceives themselves about possessing something that rightly belongs to another.
- A person who loves themselves thoughtfully consideration, even if it means forgoing that last piece of pie.
If you identify self-love as a lifestyle of resting and pampering, think again. Self-love is active, action-oriented and grounded in practicality.
When Feeling Low, Break the Standard
Our emotional health matters. If we're feeling down, tired, or if something leaves us empty, It's okay to feel sorry for ourselves, to take time to heal. But after a while, we must act, find ways to fill our emotional tank.
When we learn to listen to our hearts and act on what we truly desire, personal and systemic changes ensue.
If you feel like a squeezed lemon after interacting with someone, reconsider your relationships. Don't wait until you crawl out. Take control, gently exit toxic relationships.
Once upon a time, a boss could ask you for weekend trips or late-night airport encounters. But now, you can say "No" to things that no longer serve you. For all the right reasons, self-love comes at a price.
Step Out of the Comfort Zone? Look Before You Leap!
The phrase "step out of your comfort zone" is an employer's trick to boost employee efficiency. However, consider the circumstances and resources before you take the leap. Question whether the person advising you truly has your best interests at heart.
In essence, self-love is self-empowerment, not a burden. Embrace being yourself, and the world will do the same.
Additional Reads:
- Living When Life's Anchors Are Missing – Oksana Sobina
- I'm not sure if self-love is synonymous with being selfish, but it's crucial to understand the differences between the two.
- Olga Primachenko's seminars, particularly on self-love and mental health, provide valuable insights into personal growth and education-and-self-development.
- In Yekaterinburg, Russia, it was Primachenko who emphasized that self-love is an intimate, personal journey, not a list of things one can purchase for health-and-wellness.
- While self-love may involve taking time for oneself, such as attending seminars or indulging in self-care activities, it's essential to remember that these actions should come from genuine personal growth, not a desire for validation or appearance.
- In her book, "Kind to Yourself," Primachenko encourages readers to prioritize self-love and care, acknowledging the importance of self-understanding and self-empowerment for overall well-being.
